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Dr. Kimberly: Mm hmm. And it's interesting because the contestant, I have a little thing cooking around gaps and we were talking about like, we really brainstorm well together and we were talking about, well, how do we want to look at gaps? And so you can look at gaps. From a shrink's perspective for like from a normal negative point of view. So there could be gaps in your thoughts or gaps in services, which is not a good thing, but there can also be gaps of time where you have time to just breathe and reflect and just kind of be in that moment where you have to run to something else. So I'm really excited to talk about this, and I guess my mind is going to that definition where we talk about where you give yourself time to really sit and think and instead of running from one thing to the next. It is a reflection, not a brooding, not a rumination, but a reflection of what has happened where you are now and where you want to be in the future.
Contessa: I, we tend to do that and we do that, we're together, you and I will be moments of silence where we're just kind of taking things in. Processing it before we move on to our next thoughts. But you're not taught how to do that. They do not value this sitting down and processing this time gap. Because it appears that you're not being productive, right? It appears, you know, I remember daydreaming, you know, and a lot many. Uh, people with ADHD Day to read and when I'm daydreaming is not that I'm in a forest somewhere and I'm a butterfly, right? No, I'm there are things that's cooking in my brain. So it's almost like having this odd out-of-body experience where I'm seeing things appear in my head.
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Contessa: What it does for me is it creates room. Hmm. It's so much going up here in here that I need to let some things go in order to make room in my head. And so this action of swiping or looking and trying to find the same and with me, it's not words, it's colors. So when I'm doing the bubble pop, it's this is a group of colors. This is a group of colors and I don't have to really think about it. It's repetitious. This color goes here, just goes here, just goes here, and that output allows input. Yeah. And so there's this there's this thing where in order to receive, you have to get rid of some. Yes, right? Because you have to make room, you have to make space for those ideas. And when you're in a sense of worry and stress and all you can think about is your problems, you don't have room right to get answers. And so that's why it helps sometimes to talk to someone so you can get that out of your system so that you make space to find the answers.
Dr. Kimberly: You know, you just made me think about something and in reference to conversations that we have on a regular basis, particularly conversations we were having this morning is that. I think we undervalue. I mean, we like collective undervalue. Having people that you can kick around intellectual ideas with. Because there are lots of us and neurodivergent people where we are brimming with ideas. We have thoughts we won't put out there, and it may be that some of these never materialized into anything or we never put any kind of resources behind it, whatever. But we are idea factories and. You know, you need friends for different reasons, you connect with people on different levels, and yeah, you may have friends where you have an intimate relationship and you share very personal things. But I think it's helpful to have intellectual buddies. Yeah. Like, even if you're not working together or whatever, but just like a brainstorming group, you bounce ideas off of and within the neurodivergent community that's on the Discord server.